more on gender...
gender on a spectrum
There is not one “true blue” shade of masculinity- there is a whole color variation that can be celebrated and seen as “male”. Same with the hues of femininity.
Two separately created genders with a wide variety in expression.
a costly obedience
Our society seems to sum gender up easily in pink and blue boxes. Especially for teens, there is little room for gender expression outside of the traditional norms.
Often Christ calls us to say “no” to one thing in order to say “yes” to something else. Yarhouse’s book Costly Obedience, tells a beautiful story of brothers and sisters saying “YES!”.
A single friend once said to my husband and me, “I have never, ever felt like a third wheel with you guys.”
a rainbow bracelet
As evangelical believers, we often automatically respond “no” in situations that are much more nuanced than they appear. And we fear acknowledging the need for nuance lest we be labeled “progressive” or “liberal” for even thinking such thoughts. (Though there are also those who automatically respond with “yes” without thinking as well.)
How do we think through Pride Month?
I wanted a way to be identified as a “safe” person for teens with sexual or gender identity questions to approach for support and care. I was given some cool advice…
The blessing of attending the Revoice Conference again this year is not lost on me. I am humbled to sit amongst brothers and sisters, most of whom are sexual minorities, and listen, learn and walk alongside. Words are hard for me to find to describe the privilege I feel at being welcomed here.
Our Father who is an includer. He brings people into relationship, He seeks people out, He initiates, and in order to grow in His likeness we must do the same.
Too often we relate more like distant relatives discovered on 23 & me than family as the scriptures define us.
community in the mirror
If we are going to be bodies where single people, LGBTQ people and families all thrive together, we must intentionally encouraging couples and families to expand their definition of family. Involving others in their families in meaningful ways. This is more than simply being in a small group with a single person and seeing them once a week.
When I'm just wrong...
The feeling of community is a powerful force to draw people into our church bodies and ultimately towards a relationship with the Living God. Have you ever taken a long look in the mirror at relationships and community inside the church that you attend? Do people gather together? Do people work out conflict well? Are people loved well? As yourself these questions before you consider inviting others in.
For me, an extrovert with a lot of words, I’ve made countless stupid comments and a million judgments, I’ve spoken some of those judgments aloud, and I’ve said some outright hurtful things. I could just decide that I’m done talking but I honestly think a better path is to be able to lovingly address what I’ve said and done and then work on some internal change in me.
reflections and revisiting
When someone is experiencing gender dysphoria, they are uneasy, unhappy, and dissatisfied with the gender that they see in the mirror. Every time they look into the mirror. Every day. This discomfort is felt in varying degrees. Let that sink in for a moment.
Have you ever had the change to revisit a place that marked and changed you? I have, just this week, and it has prompted a lot of introspection on how drastically the lord has changed me over the years. Like the Grinch, my heart was at least three sizes to small. Slowly, it has grown and learned to love.
Think for a moment about how you would define femininity or masculinity. Can you come up with a definition that you would say comes primarily from Scripture? Hard, isn’t it? Society has ingrained ideas about gender that are hard to disentangle.
The letters that make up the LGBTQ are sexual identity labels (with the exception of the “T” for transgender—which is a gender identity label—I’ll talk about this next week!).
Lesbian. Gay. Bisexual. Queer.
I like to write as I talk—simply. So hopefully, these explanations will be simple and to the point. Though I would love feedback if you have thoughts on a better explanation!
it all comes back to ...hesed
There is so much to lament in and around us. I’ve seen the Father pull me to stillness so that I can begin to sorrow.
I hope to share a bit of how learning to lament has been deepening my appreciation for God’s faithfulness, calling me towards hope, and working itself out in thankfulness.
Southern Baptist thoughts and musings...
For years now, I’ve been drawn to the word hesed. God’s faithfulness. A word, scholars say, that cannot really be described by one English word. Benevolence, loving kindness, mercy, steadfast love . . . I’ve heard pastors and speakers sum all of it up to God’s faithful love.
comprenden or entienden?
Recently an article from the Houston Chronicle entitled “Abuse of Faith” came into my inbox. It is the first in a three-part series regarding sexual abuse by leaders of churches in the Southern Baptist Convention. The person that sent this along to me highlighted the portion that explained that while the Southern Baptist Convention excluded churches with females or gay pastors from membership , they had known that sex offenders were still serving and working in their churches.
Us versus Us?
Language conveys love. And the attempt to use language correctly goes a longgggg way.
In a conversation a few years ago, I used the phrase gender fluidity correctly in a sentence. The young adult that I was talking to literally stopped and stared at me, and then said, “Thank you for knowing what that means.”
As believers, we’ve held onto some thoughts related to LGBTQ+ folk that are, in many cases, unsubstantiated and wrong. I think we often don't challenge these thoughts because in our minds, the LGBTQ+ community is “out there,” outside of our church walls, people we do not rub shoulders with, people not “like us.”