My husband Shawn has taught me a lot over the years we’ve been married. As I think through issues and topics he often warns about “the ditches on either side”. Last week on National Coming Out Day, we had just such a conversation!Read More
Imagine walking with God through your neighborhood while He explained the various trees He had created and why He liked the pointy leaves of the oak tree and the long wispy leaves of the willow. His enjoyment of the tiny ants, working so busily alongside the soaring blue heron.Read More
How can I possibly know if I am making progress when all is shifting around me?Read More
My son tells me often that there is incredible power in story. I believe him. Take a listen to these two powerful stories.Read More
Shawn would say, “When anyone—churched or unchurched— hears the phrase ‘I’m gay’ they hear ‘I’m Side A.’”Read More
I think that teens believe that God hates gay people because often in evangelical churches we are confused and also think that God hates gay people…Read More
The pain experienced in today’s world by the teens around us is staggering. How can we lean into this sadness in ways that offer hope from a Savior that is their only true hope?Read More
In this season, it seems like, if I want joy and hope, I must get comfortable with the sadness. There is no other option.
Walking this path of grief has forced me to be comfortable with sadness being my travelling companion.
There is not one “true blue” shade of masculinity- there is a whole color variation that can be celebrated and seen as “male”. Same with the hues of femininity.
Two separately created genders with a wide variety in expression.
Our society seems to sum gender up easily in pink and blue boxes. Especially for teens, there is little room for gender expression outside of the traditional norms.Read More
Often Christ calls us to say “no” to one thing in order to say “yes” to something else. Yarhouse’s book Costly Obedience, tells a beautiful story of brothers and sisters saying “YES!”.Read More
A single friend once said to my husband and me, “I have never, ever felt like a third wheel with you guys.”Read More
As evangelical believers, we often automatically respond “no” in situations that are much more nuanced than they appear. And we fear acknowledging the need for nuance lest we be labeled “progressive” or “liberal” for even thinking such thoughts. (Though there are also those who automatically respond with “yes” without thinking as well.)
How do we think through Pride Month?
I wanted a way to be identified as a “safe” person for teens with sexual or gender identity questions to approach for support and care. I was given some cool advice…Read More
The blessing of attending the Revoice Conference again this year is not lost on me. I am humbled to sit amongst brothers and sisters, most of whom are sexual minorities, and listen, learn and walk alongside. Words are hard for me to find to describe the privilege I feel at being welcomed here.Read More
Our Father who is an includer. He brings people into relationship, He seeks people out, He initiates, and in order to grow in His likeness we must do the same.
Too often we relate more like distant relatives discovered on 23 & me than family as the scriptures define us.
If we are going to be bodies where single people, LGBTQ people and families all thrive together, we must intentionally encouraging couples and families to expand their definition of family. Involving others in their families in meaningful ways. This is more than simply being in a small group with a single person and seeing them once a week.Read More
The feeling of community is a powerful force to draw people into our church bodies and ultimately towards a relationship with the Living God. Have you ever taken a long look in the mirror at relationships and community inside the church that you attend? Do people gather together? Do people work out conflict well? Are people loved well? As yourself these questions before you consider inviting others in.Read More
For me, an extrovert with a lot of words, I’ve made countless stupid comments and a million judgments, I’ve spoken some of those judgments aloud, and I’ve said some outright hurtful things. I could just decide that I’m done talking but I honestly think a better path is to be able to lovingly address what I’ve said and done and then work on some internal change in me.Read More
When someone is experiencing gender dysphoria, they are uneasy, unhappy, and dissatisfied with the gender that they see in the mirror. Every time they look into the mirror. Every day. This discomfort is felt in varying degrees. Let that sink in for a moment.Read More